Do you feel distance between you and your teenager?

Imagine having meaningful conversations and feeling connected again.

You will receive uncomplicated tools to use on a daily basis which will improve communication and relations between you and your teenager.

Consider the possibilities!

According to the experts, your child is much more influenced
by YOU than by any other force in their life.*

Teen Tool Kit for PARENTS

This is a FREE class for parents of teenagers and pre-teens.
Parents will walk away with a new appreciation for their child.

Learn easy tools to change the dynamics of your relationship – that day!

Come see what it’s all about – for free!

Location and Time: TBD
»Teleclass also being organized!« Let us know if you’re interested!
Cost: FREE
Call (303) 246-6825 or email MaryLynne@Tools4Teens.com for more information

*From Yes, Your Teen is Crazy by Michael J. Bradley, Ed.D

Parents take on many roles throughout the various stages of childhood: Teacher, Administrator, and now, I’m adding a 3rd role- Coach!

Teacher

Ages 0-6

Parents spend hours doing day-to-day activities

Administrator

Ages 7-12

Kids are more independent and social

Parents support their child in this stage without giving up their role as teacher

Some refer this stage as “taxi driver” – parents provide transportation, help organize events, manage their child’s schedule, and support them while they explore their interests

Coach *New Role*

Ages 13-20

Kids begin to manage their own schedules

Kids begin to make personal decisions

Parents, sometimes, lose their role as teacher/administrator and are confused on what their role is – they start taking on various characteristics, such as: nagging to get homework done and to pick up clothing, frustrated at the silent treatment, etc.

THIS IS WHERE THE CHANGE HAPPENS = Your New Role is now COACH!

Parents support their teenager to strive for a full life – now and after they have left the nest

Your role as parent is going to encompass COACH in the title

DEFINITION OF COACH: One who helps another to explore his or her potential and support them in moving on to bigger and better things.

GOALS FOR TEENAGERS: to know that they matter, to respect and appreciate themselves and others around them, to want to extend themselves in a compassionate way to others, to be a part of society, to embrace challenges in life, and to learn how to listen to others.

WHO DOESN’T WANT THAT FOR THEIR CHILD?

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Becoming a Coach to your child

When you decide to become a coach to your teenager, things will change for the better.

Three things are important in becoming a parent-coach:

1. Know yourself

2. Practice the qualities of a coach on a daily basis

3. Be there.

1st = KNOW YOURSELF

Take time to examine your own life first

Walk the talk.

2nd = QUALITIES OF A COACH

Set STANDARDS that define your expectations

Do your standards meet your expectations?

Be FLEXIBLE and creative on how you uphold those standards

“Go with the Flow” teenagers change on a daily basis and you need to be ready for anything!

Have PATIENCE and remember the big picture

Have patience with yourself through this process and with those around you.

Be CONSISTENT on all levels

Are your actions and words consistent?

Are you available on a consistent basis?

3rd = BE THERE

Teenagers need more parent time, NOT less

Teens need to know that parents are home and that they are there for them.